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Mindfulness & Self-Care: What We Can Learn from Yitro


In this week’s parsha, Yitro, Moshe’s father-in-law visits and notices that Moshe is working tirelessly—listening to the people’s problems, answering their questions, and offering guidance from morning until night. Concerned for Moshe’s well-being, Yitro warns him that taking on so much alone will only wear him out. He advises Moshe to delegate responsibilities to the elders, allowing them to assist with the people's concerns.

How many of us struggle to ask for help or delegate tasks when we feel overwhelmed? Do we even recognize when we are overwhelmed?

One of the most valuable lessons we can take from this story is the importance of self-care—not just as an occasional luxury, but as an essential practice for taking care of ourselves.


Mindfulness and Self-Care

Self-care is an integral part of mindfulness. Practicing mindfulness helps us become more aware of what we are feeling and thinking at any given moment. With that awareness, we can choose how to respond—whether to take a short break, continue what we’re doing, or shift our focus to something else.

Creating a self-care plan allows us to identify our needs, both in everyday life and during particularly stressful or challenging times. It helps us balance our emotional and physical well-being and make intentional choices about how to care for ourselves.


How to Create a Self-Care Plan

According to Shelly Tygielski, founder of America Meditates, we can create a self-care plan by following these steps:


1️⃣ List the key areas of your life—work, family, friendships, health, fitness, spirituality, or any other priorities.


2️⃣ Set personal goals—for example, spending more time with friends, incorporating mindfulness into your routine, or making time for physical activity.


3️⃣ Identify potential obstacles—what might get in the way of following through on your plan? Acknowledge these challenges so you can prepare for them.


4️⃣ Seek support—share your plan with a trusted friend who can offer encouragement and accountability.


5️⃣ Practice regularly—just as an athlete trains for an event, we need to commit to self-care as an ongoing practice rather than a one-time effort.

The best way to start or maintain a mindfulness practice is to join a course or group and practice together, as well as receiving guidance from a teacher.


Most importantly, be kind to yourself—change takes time, and self-care is a journey, not a destination.


If Moshe Rabenu could accept help and practice self-care, so can we.


I would love to help you in your journey of self-care and wellness.

Join me in my next mindfulness course in Jerusalem.




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Cultivating Self-Awareness and Empathy: How Joseph Becomes Mindful


In Parashat Vayeshev, Yosef is introduced as a נער, a term often interpreted to reflect his immaturity and self-centeredness. He brings negative reports about his brothers to their father, flaunts his dreams of dominance, and seems oblivious to how his actions affect those around him.  Yosef’s journey also includes betrayal and hardship, and it brings profound growth.  After being sold into slavery and later imprisoned, Yosef becomes more attuned to others’ emotions and needs. He becomes a valued and trusted employee of Potiphar, understanding what he needs.

This transformation continues in his interactions with the butler, and the baker in prison. Yosef listens deeply, discerns their concerns and understands who they are and what they need, and he offers interpretations of their dreams, showing empathy and insight. 

What brings about Yosef’s change and growth? Could it be surviving the traumatic experience of being thrown into a pit and sold into slavery by his brothers? Or thoughts of not wanting to disappoint his father Yaakov? 


Was Yosef mindful? His growth mirrors the process of mindfulness—a practice of cultivating awareness of oneself and others. Initially, Yosef’s focus is inward, but as he faces life’s challenges, he learns to balance self-awareness with an acute sensitivity to those around him. Mindfulness teaches us that being present and attentive can transform not only ourselves but also our relationships. Yosef’s ability to truly see and respond to others allows him to bring healing to his relationships and solutions to a national crisis of drought and potential famine, ultimately rising to a position of leadership and saving a nation from starvation.

His story reminds us that being aware and sensitive to others and stepping outside of ourselves, can profoundly impact our lives and the lives of those around us. 

Let’s try a meditation that cultivates self-reflection, empathy, and awareness of one's impact on others:


  • Find a quiet and comfortable place to sit or lie down.

  • Close your eyes or keep them lightly closed, focusing your gaze downward.


  • Start by tuning into your body, noticing the weight of your body on the surface you are resting on and any points of contact.


  • Focus on your breath, observing the sensations of breathing, without controlling the breath in any way. Noticing as you breathe in…. And noticing as you breathe out…. (take a few breaths)


  •  Ask yourself, “how am I feeling right now?” Notice any emotions, thoughts, or physical sensations without judging them.  These feelings and sensations come and go.  Try to notice them without holding on to them. You can try to label them as “thought” or "thinking", "sensation" or "feeling” as they come up, and then watch them pass. (short pause)


  • "Now, bring to mind a recent interaction with someone where you felt a strong emotion or reaction. It could be a positive or negative experience. Imagine as many details as you can about the situation.  Reflect on how your actions and words may have impacted the other person. Consider how you would like to be treated in a similar situation. (short pause)

  • "Try asking yourself: 'How can I act with more kindness and compassion in my interactions with others?' 'What can I learn from this experience to grow and improve?'  And also very important, how do I treat myself?  Let these questions sit for a while, and feel free to come back to them to help you understand yourself more, and your behavior impacts on others.


  • As you exhale, repeat to yourself: '” May my actions bring kindness and compassion to me and those around me.” Repeat it.


  • "Take a few deep breaths and slowly open your eyes. Notice how you feel in this moment. Carry this sense of self-awareness, empathy, and compassion into your daily life.  Your self-awareness can lead to greater compassion and understanding towards others.    


Remember that every interaction is an opportunity for growth and connection.


To listen to this podcast and guided practice: https://insig.ht/HSLNJlpvtPb



To learn more about mindfulness courses and workshops In English : https://www.mindfulnesswithsusie.com/about-the-mindfulness-course-with-susie




                                                                                      

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Listening With Intention: Sound and Parshat Ki Tavo



Listening is not an easy thing to do. It’s more than just hearing– true listening requires us to open ourselves up to another’s experience so that the person is truly seen and heard.


Philosopher Martin Buber is known for the I-thou relationship, as opposed to the I-it relationship, which means we see someone for who they are, and not just as an object.


Buber describes listening as “something we do with our full selves by sensing and feeling what another is trying to convey so that together we can remove the barrier between us.”


In this week’s Torah portion, Ki Tavo, the Jewish people learn about the blessings and the curses before going into the Land of Israel. Moshe says to the people, Be silent Israel and listen (Deut.27:9) before he mentions the blessing and curses. 

It’s not just about hearing or even obeying, it’s about understanding and truly internalizing making the “right choices” and learning from the wrong ones.  


When we received the Torah on Mount Sinai, we heard the blasts of the shofar and said, “We will listen…    to the commandments of the Torah”

And one of our most important prayers that we recite three times a day starts with 

Shema Yisrael, “Hear O Israel…”

On Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year, which is approaching. the only commandment we have is to hear the shofar. Hearing the shofar is intended to “wake us up” and examine all our deeds from the past year.

It could also be understood as “Pay Attention!”


What is it about hearing that is so important compared to the other senses?


According to Seth Horowitz, neuroscientist and author of The Universal Sense, hearing is an underrated sense. 

Hearing, and sound shape the mind and affect the way we think, feel, and act.

He explains that “much of the emotional impact of sound dwells beneath conscious thought.”


Hearing is the fastest of all the senses -- we process sound much faster than sight.

It is also the sense that allows us to perceive the world at the greatest distance away.


Mindful meditation is often practiced with the breath as the object of our focus,

Sound meditation uses sound as our object of focus. Just as we use the breath to anchor us in the present moment, we use sound to keep us in the here and now.


Let’s try this sound meditation together.

Sound meditation can be practiced indoors or outdoors.


Sound Meditation                                                                                             

Settling in, and making sure you’re comfortable, sitting straight, shoulders relaxed.  You can sit or lay down, whatever keeps you most alert.

Either close your eyes or lower your gaze to a spot in front of you.

Noticing the points of contact that your body is making with the chair or surface you are sitting on.  Noticing if you are holding any tension anywhere in your body. (taking a moment to check) Pause

And seeing if you can let it go of any tension as you allow your body to be supported by the chair or mat.

Just as in awareness of the breath meditation, when our attention gets pulled away, we gently re-focus on sound or sounds.


Follow the instructions as best as you can.

I will leave spaces with no talking between the guiding for you to practice.

And now bringing attention to your breath.

Allowing the breath to move all the way down to your stomach.

Not forcing your breath in any way, but allowing your body to breathe naturally and at its own pace.

And noticing where you feel the breath most in your body– your stomach, your chest, your nose/nostrils? Taking a moment to notice (pause)

Can you hear your breath entering and leaving your body?

Resting your attention on the sound of your breath. Pause

Any time your attention wanders, bringing it back to the sound –as many times as you need to.

Imagining that all that exists is the sound of your breath. Pause


And now expanding our awareness and paying attention to the sounds in the room around us. And if there is no sound at all, then noticing that.


Sounds around you, sounds from within you (and your body) such as your breath,

Being fully open to any sounds around you or within you.

And being aware of hearing at his moment.

We practice without judging the sounds– "this is good, this is bad."

We don’t have to get caught up in the sounds, just allowing them to come and go.

Aware of sound and the space between sounds. Aware of silence. Pause

At any point, if you notice that your mind is distracted, that's okay.

Bringing your attention back to your ears and hearing whatever is in your awareness right now

We allow any sounds around to come to us on their own.

We don’t need to make an effort to hear sounds.

We can be curious about sounds.

Their volume, their pitch, their length. Vibration. Do they change?

Being present to whatever sounds are here– right now.

And allowing any sounds to wash over you and pass through you.

Taking a few more moments to observe your hearing and sounds.

Pause

And maybe feeling some gratitude for all our ears do for us.

How effortless it is for most of us to hear.

Imagine a sound you enjoy and maybe brings a smile to your face.

Pause

And now returning our attention to our breath.

Resting here for a few more moments.


May we merit a year in which we can truly listen to each other and remove any barriers between us, and appreciate all of our senses and sounds around us. 

Mindful Listening Guide Sound Meditation: https://insighttimer.com/skeinon

שנה טובה! Shana Tova

The next 8-week mindfulness course in Jerusalem with Susie Keinon starts

on 6/4/25.


 
 
 
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